What gets in the way to your success and the achievement of your goals is the inner sabotage. And it can show up in so many different insidious forms.
The outside obstacles are so much easier to overcome than the internal blocks.
The truth is, the problem is never the outside barriers. It is the story we create of what those barriers mean that diminishes our personal value.
I work mainly with women, and 99% of their problems come from their poor self-image.
One lady, let’s call her Jennifer, when reporting on the progress she has done ( which wasn’t much frankly) said she didn’t feel motivated.
She complained, no matter what she did and how hard she worked, it didn’t create the aspired results.
( Her objective was to close a coaching client she had been built a connection with, but she didn’t)
So, I asked how many potential prospects she talked to.
She said, “Just one”
“What else did you do?” I enquired.
“Watch videos, training programs and read books.” Was her response.
What happened was, Jennifer let one “no” knock her off her game. So, she felt the need to watch those uplifting videos that make her feel good, which doesn’t bring the results really.
The story behind her minor setback was “I am not good enough for people to work with me.” That’s why she was compelled to accumulate more knowledge.
She kept unconsciously sabotaging herself all because of the internal story, “I am not good enough”.
The inner sabotage, which is fed by the story “I am not good enough” shows up in the three main ways with different variations.
- You don’t have the accurate perception of the reality. Jennifer’s definition of hard work was completely distorted. First of all, she spoke to just one person. The reason she was frustrated and didn’t have motivation was because she took the rejection of her service personally. In reality, that potential client either didn’t have money, wasn’t ready or was looking for something completely different. In either way, it wasn’t about how good or bad Jennifer was as a professional.
- You have scarcity thinking. Jennifer was so hung up on closing that one sale, because she didn’t have any other prospects to speak to. When it comes to building a business, it is never personal, it is math. You have to be willing to play the number’s game. And in order to do that, you need to have the abundance mindset. There are billions of people on the planet and the world has many problems that need solving. Think bigger. Thinking bigger invites creativity and more options.
- You wait for the “perfect moment” ( which never comes). The reason so many women are stuck is because they are waiting for all the planets to align in order for them to take action. That’s a sure path to frustration. There is never a straight line to success, no matter how much you plan and elaborate different detours. You just have to be willing to keep going, taking imperfect action and be persistent. Even, when you don’t feel like it. Especially, when you don’t feel like it.
In a short, don’t allow your emotions detract from your personal value. Don’t take rejection and a negative event personally. It is never about you.
Don’t feel like doing it? Who cares. Just keep going.
An imperfect done deed is much better than a perfect action never taken.
However, it is easier said than done. The inner saboteur often shows up without your conscious awareness. Therefore, you need to work on your inner belief system that provokes sabotage. You need to improve your self-image.
And it takes effort on your part, but I promise you, it is so rewarding in the long run. Click here to discover more.
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